Divorce can be one of the most excruciating experiences one can go through in life. It brings chaos, turmoil, and may leave one feeling hopeless. Moving on may seem like a herculean task. However, it's essential to remember that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. It's crucial to find a way to pick up the pieces and rebuild your life. One way to do that is by getting counseling from an experienced professional specialized in divorce recovery counseling. They provide a safe space for individuals to work through their traumas, grief, emotions and set realistic goals to move forward. Professional counseling can help one gain a better perspective of the situation, develop coping skills, and get back on track with life. It is a small but significant step towards healing and reclaiming your life.
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Divorce counseling plays a central role in the services offered at Samaritans Well. For couples seeking assistance, our approach may involve initially meeting with either spouse individually to address specific issues. During the first session, we focus on collecting comprehensive information about the marriage's history, as well as the individual backgrounds of each spouse. It is crucial for us to understand the problems at hand, along with the strengths, challenges, and emotional dynamics within the relationship. Assessing communication levels, identifying resentments or unforgiveness, and addressing trust issues are among the many facets we explore.
At the core of any marriage lies a strong and evolving friendship. Consequently, evaluating the strength and growth of the friendship between each couple is an integral aspect of our counseling process. Our initial session involves a thorough assessment of communication issues, emphasizing the biblical principle of being "quick to hear and slow to speak." We often find that critical attitudes, contemptuous behaviors, and condemnation create significant damage within relationships. Conversely, healthy communication allows for constructive criticism, open discussion of concerns, and commendation instead of condemnation. Throughout the counseling journey, ongoing assessment and guidance will be provided to enhance communication skills.
Most couples seek divorce counseling due to conflicts or crises in their marriage. These conflicts may arise from ongoing issues, a recent affair, addiction, or other marital challenges that have led to a deadlock. When addressing infidelity, a specific approach is required. The initial one or two hours are dedicated to listening to the story and confession of the affair, as well as understanding the marriage's history. The person who had the affair is often asked to write a disclosure of their sexual history, which they present to the counselor and their spouse in the next session. A thorough review of the disclosure, typically spanning a two or three-hour session, is followed by a polygraph test to verify the disclosure's contents. This process is crucial for rebuilding trust, which takes considerable time and effort after the breach caused by an affair. Patience, hard work, and support from the counseling process, including new members in the support system, are necessary to move towards forgiveness and rebuilding trust. Forgiveness, a choice made after acknowledging the pain and resentment, can be extended when the time is right. However, rebuilding trust depends on the person's consistent, right behavior over time. Our understanding is that while forgiveness is a choice, trust is closely tied to the other person's actions. Rebuilding trust may be more challenging if similar behavior occurred in the past, which intensifies the pain caused by the current situation. One significant issue observed during couples' struggles is Negative Sentiment Override. Instead of embodying the belief that "Love Hopes all things," individuals may develop a negative perception of their spouse's communication. Divorce counseling aims to address these challenges and guide couples towards effective resolution.
We provide divorce counseling services to couples who are facing emotional and spiritual challenges in their marriage. During our sessions, we explore the factors contributing to any negative perceptions in your relationship, aiming to foster forgiveness and grace. Our goal is to create a positive sentiment override and establish a foundation for counseling.
Couples often seek our help when they are distressed, discouraged, or traumatized by recent events in their marriage. We understand the importance of listening to both sides of the story to formulate a preliminary strategy by the end of the first session.
To delve deeper into your experiences and individual needs as a couple, we may arrange separate sessions for husband and wife. By addressing both marriage and individual issues, we can effectively address matters directly and indirectly connected to your relationship.
At Samaritan's Well, we specialize in marriage counseling and divorce recovery and understand the significance of experience and a clear process. We incorporate prayer and scriptures during sessions, depending on the couple's openness.
As part of our approach, we may assign homework to supplement the topics covered during the session. This can include communication skills, rebuilding friendship, or working on forgiveness. We tailor our plans to meet your specific needs.
We pray that God guides you to the right place for your divorce recovery, and we are here to support you.
Samaritan's Well Marriage Counseling
1212 East Arapaho Road, Ste 244, Richardson, Texas 75081, United States
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We offer counseling in the state of Texas.