By Mark Verkler
It’s important to know about the dangers of having a 50-50 perspective on your relationship. The 50-50 ratio is the cultural common sense default way to approach a relationship; I’ll do my half, you do yours. The problem with this perspective is that the sin of comparison inevitably comes in. When I begin to compare my output or what I’m doing in the relationship to someone else, we’re going to come into problems.
Think about this myth coming into play in Genesis, in the early story of Adam and Eve. The serpent comes in and begins to bring his trickery. He begins to get Eve to compare what God is doing and what he’s not doing. Before long, she has sinned and Adam sinned, and we know what happens from there. That really was based on the sin of comparison.
When we compare, we’re going to have pride or contempt, and either way, we’re going to be blinded. God wants me to know my park, and do that 100% Now, let’s read from Colossians 3, starting with verse 12.
Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body, you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.
We need to ask God what He is requiring of us. Does it mean that I overlook sin? If there’s a significant sin or a significant sin pattern, it must be confronted, and sometimes with a second or third witness. We don’t want to get into the 50-50 pattern of a relationship.