What do we have to learn when it comes to bringing humility into relationships? The Scripture teaches that God opposes the proud, but He gives grace to the humble. “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:5
Humility is depending on God, not myself.
In my counseling, I find one of the biggest signs of humility is whether a person can apologize freely or not. Whether we own our faults.
A great rule of thumb is to remember the five Rs of apology.
Regret – Saying I’m sorry
Responsibility – Saying I was wrong
Repentance – Seeing the tangible change in behavior
Restitution – In some cases, paying back financially is appropriate
Request- Asking for forgiveness
If we are regularly apologizing when we need to, and humbling ourselves in that way, it’s a very good sign that pride is not winning in my life. But we have to keep depending on God. Remember what Jesus says in Luke 17: “in the same way, when you obey me you should say, ‘We are unworthy servants who have simply done our duty.’” That is true humility.