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What do we have to learn when it comes to bringing humility into relationships? The Scripture teaches that God opposes the proud, but He gives grace to the humble.  “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:5


Humility is depending on God, not myself.


In my counseling, I find one of the biggest signs of humility is whether a person can apologize freely or not. Whether we own our faults.


A great rule of thumb is to remember the five Rs of apology.

  • Regret – Saying I’m sorry

  • Responsibility – Saying I was wrong

  • Repentance – Seeing the tangible change in behavior 

  • Restitution – In some cases, paying back financially is appropriate 

  • Request- Asking for forgiveness


If we are regularly apologizing when we need to, and humbling ourselves in that way, it’s a very good sign that pride is not winning in my life. But we have to keep depending on God. Remember what Jesus says in Luke 17: “in the same way, when you obey me you should say, ‘We are unworthy servants who have simply done our duty.’” That is true humility.


Prayer: Lord, show us any ways that we are depending on ourselves and not you. Lord, show us if we’re slow to apologize, or if we say no to repentance, so that we can repent of that and build our relationships on humility. Amen.

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