By Mark Verkler
There are two unrighteous forms of judgment that are possible to fall into as a believer: bitter on one side and prideful on the other. This article will be focused on bitter judgment.
Remember, in John 7:24, Jesus says, “Look beneath the surface so you can judge correctly.” We understand there’s a righteous (or correct) way to judge and an unrighteous way to judge.
Hebrews 12:15 says, “Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.” What we understand is that an unrighteous judgment perverts or makes the straight path crooked. So, we have to forgive and get back to grace and love towards each other.
In the early 90s, my wife and I had a miscarriage during her first pregnancy. And my wife really did grieve, but I didn’t grieve that much. I think I just stuffed it. About 10 years later, I was on a plane, flying to a conference. I was very relaxed, reading about a ministry to families or parents who had lost a child and unborn child, and I just burst into tears. The grief came out, but more importantly, what I realized was the bitterness I had toward God. I was offended by Him, and I had judged him with bitterness. So, I repented and released it. A burden that I didn’t even know I had was lifted that day.
It is vital to understand that in love and the definition of love, we see Ephesians 5:29. It says, “no man has ever hated himself, but he nourishes and cherishes himself.”